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#1

• ペガサス
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• 2020/02/28 22:18

Vivinaviの仲間探しを使った事がある人は多いと思いますが。。。どんなお相手と実際に出会えましたか？　出会えた相手の性と年齢、そして出会い目的を教えてください！

これは単なるアンケートで、結果は皆様の
何らかの参考になればと思っています。

ヨロシクお願いします。

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#282

• あほ
• 2020/09/18 (Fri) 20:43
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セックスしたくらいで旦那に勝った気になる器もあそこも小さいひきこもりw

#283

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2020/09/18 (Fri) 20:49
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282
おっと、俺の悪口はそこまでだ。

#285

• ざこ
• 2020/10/14 (Wed) 06:36
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２８２
おっと、俺の悪口もそこまでだ。

#286

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2020/10/14 (Wed) 07:10
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おっと、くだらん書き込みはそこまでだ。

#287

• ぷっ!
• 2020/10/14 (Wed) 09:45
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以上香檻がお届けしました。

#1

• 愛
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• 2019/12/02 21:19

何故男と女は惹かれ合うのに

根本的に分かり合えないのでしょう。

月日が経つとどんどん話しが噛み合わなくなっていく。。

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#65

• Z
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• 2019/12/09 (Mon) 09:12
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でも、、、
しつもんさんは答えがでてるから、もうその段階ではないのかな？

でも、聞いてくるという事はまだ頑張りたいのかな？

全く私の意見を聞き入れない亭主関白な主人と喧嘩しながら、私は結婚10年続けましたが、いつも自分が正しくて、それを私に押しつける主人にもう疲れたので、自分を丸々受け入れて愛してくれる人と一緒になりたいから別れたいと伝えました。1週間会話もせずに別の部屋で寝ました。もう心は決まっていたのでいらない荷物を処分して、身軽にして引っ越し準備もしました。私は1人でやっていける十分な収入があります。主人といる理由はもうありませんでしたから。それからですね、彼は人が変わったように、私を大切にしてくれるようになり、私を尊重してくれるようになり今年で結婚13年。まさかあんな頑固な人が変わるなんて、本当に今でも信じられないです。

しつもんさんがどうゆう状況かは分かりませんが、何をきっかけに状況が変わるかはわからないものだと思います。
でも旦那さんが言うように、あなたが変われば、パートナーの心境が変わる可能性はありますね。頑張ってください。

#66

• ミレニアム世代
• 2019/12/09 (Mon) 20:27
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これからの時代の結婚の必要性

結婚せずに事実婚を選択してる人いますよね。

結婚の必要性ってまだあるんでしょうか。
結婚って言葉に縛られずに一緒にいたいから一緒にいる関係憧れます。

子供は欲しいです。

#67

• お一人様のサバイバル
• 2020/03/03 (Tue) 10:11
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去年の12月のトピですが、
#10と#11の女性の書き込み見て、私は正反対かな？と考えてます。
確かに経済的には1人になっても、なんとか乗りきられるけど。
現実の生活は甘いもんじゃないと思う。
特に、言葉も習慣も違う、ここアメリカでは。
私は甘ったれ(一人っ子)で、いつも人に頼ってしまう。電気関係や機器の不具合、車の事
力のいる事(ジャーの蓋とか)高い所に手が届かない等など。夫は生活に必要不可欠
あと法律関係や難しい英語に将来でくわすかもしれない。
30代の息子や娘にも頼めるけど、毎日は一緒にいない。確かに夫の世話(食事や、その他)は、めんどくさいけど、我慢してます。
だから私的には男の方がひとりで生きても平気なのじゃ？
食事は今は出来合いで買えるし冷凍物もある。
夜の生活は男には必要だから、その点だけですね不便なのは。でも70代になったら必要なくなるかもですね。
無人島で、ひとりでサバイブ出来るのは男でしょうね。
狩リや焚き火の火起こしとか上手そう。
虫や蛇も、怖がらないし。
昔　南極か北極でグループの探険隊の中で1人だけ生き残ったのは女性(確かエスキモー)
でも彼女は、周りが殆ど男性で、いろんな力仕事等で助けて貰っていたというのもあって生き残れたと思う

#68

• 時間の無駄
• 2020/03/03 (Tue) 10:17
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また昔のを引っ張り出してきたな。

#69

• ぷっ
• 2020/03/03 (Tue) 12:14
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誰の仕業だ

#1

• T
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• 2026/04/30 01:14

I am a working person who has been in the U.S. for more than 10 years.
I work for an American company, so there are few Japanese people of my generation and they are all married.
Please tell me where I can meet Japanese people.
I have used Japanese machiap, but I am tired of starting from a long distance.
I wish there was a place or app where singles in the US could meet. Or is there a marriage agency etc. ？

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書き込めなくなるまであと35日

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• #２
• 2026/04/30 (Thu) 17:11
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You can find it in the Town Guide.

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#3

• nori
• 2026/05/11 (Mon) 03:14
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Volunteer, join various groups and contribute to them
and participate in learning, in short, put yourself in contact with others
and you will meet the right person for you
in harmony.
If your human power improves, they will come to you!

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#4

• Maru
• 2026/05/26 (Tue) 11:58
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We recommend that you find a fellow Bibinavi member.

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• 友達
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• 2026/02/06 17:22

Hi ！
Nice to meet you and post.
I have been in Hawaii for 10 years.
I have a husband and elementary school aged children.
When my children were young, I had a good amount of friends who were moms
but now I only have one friend.
I think I have a difficult
personality, because after getting to know them well, I find I don't like them
and fade away from them. I am also sensitive
to the words of others.
I am not good in large groups either.
I want to keep a good relationship with everyone, but it doesn't go well
.
I feel lonely
with only one friend after 10 years of being here.
I'm also tired of having a relationship where we always party every week
(I had a friend like that before) ？ I wonder if I'm being selfish

How have you dealt with it ? <2069>
I would like to get your advice.

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#5

• POPS
• 2026/02/10 (Tue) 15:31
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Hello. I have been in Hawaii for a long time and have children, but my mom friends only interacted with me during my child-rearing years, and none of them are still friends now that my children are grown. I have heard that there are moms around me who continue to have close relationships even after the distance has passed, but I am not very good at that kind of thing, so unless I hear from them, it's spontaneous. When my children were young, my own life revolved around them, so I tended to focus on my mom friends, but now that they are grown, I have found my own hobbies and my friendships have expanded from there. I don't really like the typical tea ＆ sit down and chat over lunch, so it was ideal for me to be able to approach someone at my own pace while sharing my own hobbies and enjoyment together, which was also a low hurdle. Also, you say yourself that you have a difficult personality, but what was your family environment like growing up? ？ Did you grow up in an environment that made it difficult for your friends to be themselves, such as parents putting unreasonable hopes or pressure on you or being more strict than necessary when you were a child ？? I was like that. I grew up in an environment where my parents always had strange expectations of me and I couldn't express my own personality, so I would always ask others to meet my basic needs that I would normally ask of my parents, and I would repeatedly end relationships when my expectations were different from theirs. I would fade out when I saw something I didn't like, and I would be sensitive to other people's words, but it was completely the same old me who would impose my own ideals of what I wanted the other person to be and what I hoped he or she would be like before I knew them properly, then become displeased and leave when things went a little different. Now I realize this vicious cycle and realize that this personality was not my fault but due to the environment in which I was brought up ＆ After accepting this, I have gradually changed and it has become easier to live. However, it is also true that I spent several decades of my life quite painfully because of this. For this reason I commented because I couldn't think of it as someone else's problem, but if I'm totally misguided, please let me through.

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#6

• 友達
• 2026/02/14 (Sat) 23:38
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Hobbyist
I used to think nothing of it, but in recent years
when I realized that I have very few friends
I felt very sad, so I posted this.
Ideally, I would like to find my own hobbies and meet good friends
there.
Thank you for your opinion 😊.

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#8

• 友達
• 2026/02/14 (Sat) 23:41
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Banana
Thank you for your opinion😊
I will take action so that one day I can meet a friend
with whom I can be natural.

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#9

• 友達
• 2026/02/14 (Sat) 23:52
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Pops
I think it's ideal that you find a hobby and your friendships expand from there
. I sincerely
wish I could meet such friends.
I don't think there is anything wrong with my family environment, but I have realized recently that I have always tried to be a good person
because I didn't want people to hate me
and then I got tired of it and kept making excuses to stay away from people.
I felt that you have accepted yourself and are now living a wonderful life.
I will try to face myself so that one day I can be like that too.
Thank you for your valuable opinion 😊
I decided to go.

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#10

• POPS
• 2026/02/15 (Sun) 09:34
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I believe that awareness is the most important first step, so from now on, if you find yourself thinking, "What is that ？" or "Why is this ？", please take a look at your own feelings, desires, and frustrations. You will definitely learn something from it, and I am sure you will change for the better little by little. I read in a psychology book that most people spend their whole lives blaming others for everything without realizing it. ！ The most important thing is not to be stressed or disillusioned with yourself, but to accept and cherish the fact that "that is fine" and spend your time with it.

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#1

• Yutaka_zo
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• 2025/03/05 17:48

Do you think more people have engage in adultery more afte the pandemic since people were home more often?

Not gonna lie. Not really happy in my marriage but can’t divorce my wife. Is there a lot of Japanese married women that engage in adultery? How and where do they look if I would assume most work from home or take care of the home?

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#2

• ？
• 2025/03/06 (Thu) 18:40
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It's been quite a while since the pandemic.
There's been a temporary increase in working from home, but not nearly back to where it was before the pandemic ？

And I don't understand how it makes sense that if people stay home more often, there will be more infidelity.

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• t&f
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• 2024/09/29 12:08

I am currently working in a Japanese restaurant
I can't make friends of my age.
I don't speak English, but I can't make friends my own age.
How do you find friends?
I've been told that I should be proactive and talk to them.

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#1

• Allure
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• 2023/10/01 13:47

I am a woman living in Hawaii.

I heard from a male friend of mine who is engaged to be married.

He said that girls who are Japanese tourists and are engaged to be married don't know too much about the high cost of living in Hawaii.

You shouldn't say you want to get married, move to Hawaii and become a housewife.

No matter how beautiful you are, how healthy you are, how good your character is, marriage is a life.

Most couples living in Hawaii work together. Even the wives of doctors.

The cost of living is 2-3 times that of Japan. Japan is the only developed country where prices and incomes have remained almost the same for decades. Hawaii is America, so men and women are equal. It is not uncommon to find couples where the wife earns more than the husband.

If you want to have children, you should earn your own money as well as your husband's.

If your husband has already paid off the mortgage, that's still fine, but if you both buy the house and pay for it together, you can pay it off faster and have more credit in your own history in the future.

If the husband dies first, the wife won't even get a survivor's pension until she is in her 60s.

Too few companies will hire a Japanese woman in her 60s who has never worked in Hawaii at all.

Start working in your 20s, 30s, and 40s to gain experience. I used to be a tourist living in Japan, so I would be very happy if I could be of help.

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• 類友
• 2023/10/30 (Mon) 14:18
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#27 P

So you get married, regret it, and get divorced.

You finally meet a man who makes the same or more money than you and remarry. Japanese women.

If you live in Hawaii, there are many Hawaii men looking for Japanese women. Regardless of nationality.

Japanese women are popular not only with Asian, Middle Eastern, and mixed, but also with white and black men, so good luck Japanese men ！ ！.

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• 一
• 2023/11/19 (Sun) 02:35
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Are white men still popular these days ？
I don't think so in Hawaii.
I feel that there are surprisingly many people who remarry Japanese after divorcing white men.

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#30

• second
• 2023/11/19 (Sun) 20:14
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＃ 29 Ichi-san

I guess it's a matter of fate and preference.

Some people have a Japanese husband the first time in Japan and a white husband the second time in Hawaii, and a black husband.

Some people are also white the second time and black the second time.

I have never met a Japanese man living in Hawaii whose wife is not Japanese （ White Black Asian other ）.

I still wonder if many Japanese men are looking for Japanese women.

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• Two
• 2023/11/20 (Mon) 00:55
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Yes, I agree.
Japanese women have married and remarried to people of various races, not only Caucasians.

Japanese men have only met Japanese women who are wives.
If there are any men here in Vivinavi who have wives of non-Japanese race
I would be happy to hear various opinions.

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#32

• 一
• 2023/11/23 (Thu) 11:46
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Dear Second and Two

Thank you for your reply. I learned a lot.
It is a marriage, isn't it?

But have you married or remarried a white or black man
and has it lasted ？ long?

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#1

• Kanikani22
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• 2023/08/06 03:28

I'm sorry, I just wanted to post this to see if anyone knows anything about this.

If anyone has been to couples counseling, I would like to know the good and the bad ？

I had to quit my job, and now that I quit, I spend more time with my husband, and I am very stressed and worried. We both don't want a divorce.　He is usually a good person when he is in a good mood, as well as in terms of finances in his old age.


Maybe it's his age, but ？ he talks more intimidatingly than before.
When I point it out, he says I'm wrong, and when I start recording him, he takes on a kinder tone.
He is not fair. ！ In front of a third party, he is a quiet husband.

I see couples counseling in movies, so I wonder if this really improves the relationship ？.

It seems expensive.
Please let me know if you know anything about it.

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#2

• Sean0914
• 2023/08/06 (Sun) 03:48
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I have had the pleasure of working with Dr. Setsuko Yano a long time ago.

It depends on the person whether it is effective or not,
but well, it changed my viewpoint and I am glad in some ways.

I was also able to use HMSA's insurance.

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• bluesamurai22
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• 2023/02/11 19:07

Could anyone please advise on where to find single Japanese in their 20s and 30s in Portland?
Thank you in advance.

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#1

• ぱらぱら
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• 2022/05/10 16:25

Sheraton ・ Grande ・ Tokyo Bay ・ Hotel is offering an exclusive plan for Urayasu residents ！
https://modules.marriott.com/wedding-fair/jp/tyosi-sheraton-grande-tokyo-bay-hotel

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