Vivinavi : Orange County : (United States) Orange

• 911
• 2023/11/14 (Tue) 23:16
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I have acquaintances, but I don't make friends.
In the past, I was told that I only contact friends when I use people
Oh well, I won't do it again, and that's the end of it.

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/15 (Wed) 08:44
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I feel like it's kind of a hassle. But I have kids, so when I see other kids having playdates, I sometimes feel sorry for my kids because they can't go there because of me.

I hate it when they don't split the bill. The only thing better than splitting the bill is paying for your own portion, though. I don't drink alcohol, but the wine we all drank except for me was included in the bill, and it was ＄ 42 plus per person, but it was more expensive than dinner.

I don't consider myself to have any friends, but I think there are a lot of people who take "we're just friends" quite lightly. I don't usually get involved with them at all, and I'm not the person they turn to when they have a problem (I basically solve it myself or give up and don't tell them every time). Not that there is anything wrong with that, but there is so much variation in the definition of a friend that it is hard to understand.

Someone who contacts me only when they have a favor to ask after not seeing me for years is also not a friend.

I feel sorry for myself for thinking that I don't have to worry about not having friends. Sometimes I can ask the teachers, the office staff, or the mothers in the class if I don't have any friends to help me with school matters.

I sometimes think that I hate myself like this.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/16 (Thu) 11:13
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I think it depends on the kind of friends you make, not on whether you need or don't need friends.

It depends on your personality.

If you feel uncomfortable or stressed after dating, then you should not want that friend.

Also, a friend is someone you meet at a certain point in your life. Even long-time friends can change their direction in life, or they may no longer be a good fit for you as you grow older.

In retrospect, friends looked like this.

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/16 (Thu) 21:16
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Yes. I agree with your opinion, Showa27.
Do you have times when you think it is troublesome ？

In my case, I don't like it when the number of members increases without permission or when people I don't know join the group.
I don't like it when people add members without my permission or when people I don't know join in.
I envy people who can talk about anything and have good friends, but I don't think I can do it.

• 悟り
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 08:51
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As I get older, I realize that people who don't have many friends or acquaintances are small in size. As I get older, I realize how many people cut themselves off from others because of profit-loss considerations or differences in values. People who don't have many friends are often jealous, overly profit-motivated, and self-centered. The person blames the other person for everything, but the person with few friends has strong habits, wants to judge and take advantage of the other person, and gives advice from above. If he/she is more comfortable with that, it's fine. I wouldn't want to get too close to him.

• Ms ミドル
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 09:08
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Not all people like to be in a group with others.
Some people find stress relief by having time to themselves, others find it refreshing to get together with others, and there are all kinds of people because we are all human.

It is tempting to compare yourself with those around you, but I think it is better to follow the way you feel comfortable in life.

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 12:54
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I see. So that's how they see you if you don't have many friends. I don't think it's wrong to say that you are peculiar, but I think that since you don't have any friends to begin with, you don't have anyone to give advice to.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 13:15
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I don't think that people who don't have many friends and acquaintances mean that they are small vessels.

I feel safer with fewer friends and acquaintances because I can cherish them and keep them for a long time.

• Ms.middle
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 14:45
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People like 7 are the ones I don't want to hang out with because of their quirks. Some people like to crowd, some don't. You should live your life the way you are comfortable living.
First of all, take care of your family, and friends and acquaintances will come in time if you have a chance to meet them.

• 悟り２
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 16:11
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I think people who say that people with few friends have small capacity are the ones who have small capacity.

• 悟り
• 2023/11/17 (Fri) 18:44
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You all don't have friends, do you?

• 悟り
• 2023/11/18 (Sat) 18:51
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Eh ？ I'm not a BBA ？ but

• 悟り
• 2023/11/18 (Sat) 18:55
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I am 25 years old. I do not have a VISA to work.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/19 (Sun) 15:57
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Friends should be friends you can count on one hand.
A friend should be a silent friend.
Sake should be lukewarm and warmed
A snack should be a grilled squid
If you drink botsup, botsup, botsup
The future will spread in your heart.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/20 (Mon) 12:56
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Is Bokuchisan concerned about how he looks without friends ？
or does trying to make friends make him question what in the world a friend is?

Do you have to rethink what a friend is, you may arrive at some interesting results.

When a toddler comes into contact with children outside the family, they have made friends. The word friend is then used as a generic term for all kinds of relationships.

As adults, friends are replaced by family relationships, parental relationships, work relationships, play relationships, casual relationships, lover relationships, and so on.

At that time, you will no longer have friends. As an adult, you may assume you have no friends.

This idea is likely to be questioned and rebuffed, but it may be seen as a starting point for an interesting idea.

• ボッチ
• 2023/11/21 (Tue) 19:02
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If you marry a Showa-era father,
will they say that you are a ball-buster ？?

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/21 (Tue) 21:51
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No, no, I don't care about how I look. I don't like people who seem to have a lot of friends, and the feeling of being a bother comes first.

I think that by avoiding or not extending my connections with people in this way, I am also narrowing my child's world.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/22 (Wed) 07:00
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Showa Otto is LGBT, so it would be impossible.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/22 (Wed) 12:19
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Do you feel sorry for your child for not having friends, not you?

Do you yourself find socializing stressful? There are a lot of people like that. That's all right. For children, that's why they have schools, where they learn about peer relationships, so to speak. That's important and they learn skills to do in society in the future.

The key thing is that you unconsciously send a message to your child not to socialize. It can be your attitude or your genetics.

What you can do is to promote openness in socializing to your children.

• 000
• 2023/11/22 (Wed) 12:49
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People who have no friends also have the following advantages.

Free use of your time and space ： People without friends do not have to worry about or adjust to others. You can immerse yourself in your own likes and interests. You can live at your own pace. You can act according to your own will and judgment. Being able to use your own time and space freely has the effect of reducing stress and promoting personal growth.

• サンデー毎日
• 2023/11/22 (Wed) 15:36
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＞ If you marry a Showa Ototto, will you be said to have married a ballerina? ？
＞ Showa Ototto is LGBT, so it would be impossible.

Was it a hoax that you were married to Yingling with M-shaped legs ？?

• サンデー毎日
• 2023/11/22 (Wed) 18:21
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＞ Who is Yingling with the M-shaped legs?

Perhaps your former wife was Vivian ・ Sue, not Yingling ？
Sorry if my memory is wrong. They were both from Taiwan, so I may have been mistaken
. I envy you being married to such a beautiful woman.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/23 (Thu) 07:59
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Even if they give me one unfamiliar name after another ？ ？ ？ I just become

Showa Ototsuan is LGBT, so
I can live in peace even in extreme poverty because strange people with ulterior motives do not come near me.

• 自称ホームレスのおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/23 (Thu) 10:33
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＞ No strange ones with ulterior motives approach

After all, no one approaches him, so does he generously give out iPhones and $ 100 gift certificates to young men?
I wonder if the property that Ototsan is renting is also being occupied by a young male actor first.

• 紅夜叉
• 2023/11/23 (Thu) 11:27
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It's miserable to live your life worrying about other people's pocketbooks.

• ベニスに死す
• 2023/11/23 (Thu) 17:56
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I wondered why Showa-era Otouta-san gave generous and expensive gifts
to young strangers, but now I understand: it's because they're LGBT.
Have a happy Thanksgiving and Christmas with your wonderful friends.

• ぼっち
• 2023/11/24 (Fri) 00:31
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I don't know if I'm pitiful for not having friends or if it's just me.
If I act like I don't need friends, inevitably my kids will be less active. It means that I am sorry for thinking that I could have originally had a fun playdate with another child.

I do not limit my children. They are still toddlers, so it's like the adults are getting together on their own and saying let's have a playdate. And I don't participate in that. Maybe I'm just getting by with it for now because the kids are not old enough to make commitments to each other.

> The bottom line is that you unintentionally send a message to your kids not to socialize. It can be your attitude or your genetics.

What do you mean by heredity ？ I'm kind of curious. I thought these things came from the environment.

> What you can do is promote openness in socializing to your children.

I would think it would be difficult to promote it when I don't actively socialize with people 😅 sorry for sulking.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/24 (Fri) 08:03
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＃ Why do Showa-era fathers generously give expensive gifts to young strangers
That's because, you know, they have to have their computers maintained.
Simple maintenance costs $20, and slightly more elaborate maintenance costs $40.
I always give a gift at the end of the year because I always get maintenance done for less money.

If I go to another maintenance shop, it's $80 plus the maintenance fee just to check
You can easily see which is more profitable.

• グレーターロサンゼルス
• 2023/11/24 (Fri) 12:26
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＞ It's easy to see which is more beneficial.

In the Showa period, Ototsuan also gave expensive gifts to botched mechanics. No one could understand Ototsan's explanation why he did that, but it was because he was LGBT. I was convinced. No need to be shy.

• 自身で考えよう
• 2023/11/24 (Fri) 17:21
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> Why should I be ashamed of being LGBT ？

I was walking around naked with pride

> On that basis ？

I got into quite a bit of trouble with customers, and complaints poured in

> Send a year-end gift with all your heart to that person who has been so kind to you.

Since the father is a wealthy man, $ he can buy 100 gift certificates.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 14:38
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＞ Acting like you don't want friends
＞ It's hard to proceed when you don't actively socialize

Children, and especially young children whose language is not yet developed, learn what the world is like by watching the actions, attitudes, reactions and facial expressions of their parents.

So, if you act like you don't want friends and avoid socializing with others, the child will learn about it.

If parents are not conscious of their actions, they unknowingly teach their children what they do not want.

• 昭和27
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 14:59
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We are talking about heredity to children, but when you look at babies right after birth, some are whiny, some are quiet, some are curious, some are sensitive.

So there are differences in personality right from birth. This itself is caused by the genes received from the father and mother.

This original personality then changes into various expressions depending on the surrounding environment. This environment becomes itself in relation to the parents.

As the child grows older and moves away from the family, other environmental influences come into play. But by that time, the foundation of the personality has been roughly established.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 15:38
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Children grow up watching their parents' backs

No matter how many admirable words parents may speak to their children,
if their daily life is lax,
there is no persuasion.

• 5時に夢中
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 17:15
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Children grow up watching their parents' backs ？ Children will learn from imitation.
Children listen to adults while they play, so they learn that auntie mama said bad things about auntie.
I heard that children watch their parents' backs from the back of the house when they are doing business, like the old Japanese grocery store. I myself was scolded a lot in the past for being an adult, and I was told to go outside and play, and I was told that my mother's field was bad, but now I am told that the field is the seed of men and women.

• 渋谷で5時
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 19:26
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Children are monomaniacal geniuses who watch and absorb. Let's show and tell them what their mothers do
They absorb not only words from their mothers, but also various things they see in their daily lives. It is easy to tell them with words, "Be kind," but for some children it is still difficult to understand what kind behavior is. Showing your mother's behavior is a good way to communicate this to your own child. Children learn how to interact with others by imitating those around them. If they see their mothers being kind to others, they will learn to behave in a kind manner.

• ありのままで
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 21:00
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Both of my parents were quiet and not very social, but I had a lot of friends and loved lively places and people since I was a student. My father's side of the family loved to throw parties, and my grandparents and relatives were the kind of people who were always in and out of the house.
Now that I am older and have become a parent, I prefer to be alone.
I have a few friends with whom I can talk about anything, but I may or may not see them every few months or once a year, but if something happens, I contact them on LINE.

Eventually the child will lead the child's life. They can be influenced by their parents or even be anti-influenced by them. Don't worry about it so much, and if the child is social, let him play as long as it is not too much for Bocchi.

• ナオミ
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 22:41
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There was a post about how you were concerned about the disappearance of Baikinman from the exchange square,
how would you feel if the Showa Otottochan disappeared ？
I would miss him. I hope he will stay ～ for a long time.

• 質問です
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 22:46
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If you don't mind me asking, please let me know.
Which is the Showa era ototsuan, L, G, B, or T ？?

• Spiderman
• 2023/11/25 (Sat) 23:34
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The disappearance of times Jin Man from the exchange square,

He's with us, you know. You can hear him from time to time. Please notice him.

Father, he is getting old, please take good care of him.

• 友人
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 00:08
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When he calls me, he asks me for favors. When I call him, he asks me for a lot of money
When I go on vacation, he is selfish and I am selfish
When I go on vacation, he breaks his promise.
Drinking party, splitting the bill even though I didn't drink
Dinner party, splitting the bill even though I ate cheap food
This is not my friend
People are selfish, they always end up with a profit/loss account.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 07:05
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＃ Which of L, G, B, or T is the Showa Otto ？
L, G, B, or T all.
But what do they want to hear about a stranger?

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 07:54
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Isn't it best to enrich your own life rather than worrying about others?

• すご
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 09:31
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>91 This is one person ？ then you have a strong person 😂.

• やっぱりね。
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 10:31
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Ignore the posts of those who call themselves strong.

• 説明
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 20:43
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96, I don't understand. Who calls himself a strong man ？?

• すご
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 22:09
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What ？ how can that be ？ if one person is doing all of the above then he is not a strong person ？ where did you get the self-proclaimed ？ lol

• 昭和50
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 22:55
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There's something flimsy about 27's writing
zero solutions.

• Spiderman
• 2023/11/26 (Sun) 23:54
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Number 91
I just laid out what's wrong with people.

• 渋谷の101
• 2023/11/27 (Mon) 09:00
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Having no friends is not necessarily a cause for pity. People have different personalities, interests, and values, so some people have many friends, while others have few. Some studies have shown that the number and quality of your friends can affect your happiness and satisfaction, but that is just a general trend and varies from person to person. If you are struggling with a lack of friends, you may want to look for new opportunities to meet and socialize. But if you are enjoying your life without friends, that's fine.

• 一人ぽっちの部屋
• 2024/01/05 (Fri) 07:55
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When you "decide by likes and dislikes," you start connecting with people who share the same values as you.

• 引退
• 2024/01/14 (Sun) 14:53
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I don't have many friends, but I am happy separately. People seem noisy these days.

• MI
• 2024/01/16 (Tue) 14:06
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If you don't want it, you don't have to worry about what others think

However, people who avoid socializing tend to think and act selfishly

My mother is exactly the same type, and she is now old and lives alone.
If your children are close to you, they can talk to you in their own way, but
there is no guarantee that this will happen in the future, so it might be better to be prepared for that
.

• アラフォー
• 2024/01/17 (Wed) 18:39
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I don't know if I've ever had no friends at all, but I would probably be boring. Talking about stupid things is only possible if you don't like each other. I think it's enough to have about 5 people you can talk to who you can trust and who trust you, including your family.
Too many is tiring. Once you have children, you can't make time for them, so they become distant, but you will naturally get back in touch with those who are a good fit. As we get older, we don't make new friends, so we want to treasure our old friends, and above all, our children are our treasures.

• 人災
• 2024/01/18 (Thu) 00:34
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How refreshing to be free from that annoying person.
He gave me advice and advice from above even though I didn't ask him, was extremely stingy, decided everything for himself, talked behind my back if I didn't follow his advice, trusted me and told me everything I told him, hit my car in a hurry because of his short temper, lied to me and brought me to personal injury and I couldn't even get insurance for my car. It was very expensive. I have a lot of bad luck when I deal with people. I lost a lot of money by trusting in stocks.
The more I associate with people, the more I feel bad, pushed around, hurt by their words and actions, and the lonelier I am when I'm alone, the fewer disasters I have.
It's good to have friends you can trust. 、、、、、

Besides, Japanese and people from Japan take advantage of this. They don't have a car and think they deserve a ride.

• LOL
• 2024/01/18 (Thu) 03:27
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↑ There was a man who blamed others for all his misfortunes. lol, that's because I prefer to be alone.

• アラフォー
• 2024/01/18 (Thu) 07:21
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I think the reason strange people come to you is because you can't say no
I used to get tired of putting on a good face to people I didn't like, but
If I don't like this person when I first meet them, I usually end up not liking them afterwards
I try to focus on people I feel good with. I try to focus on people I feel comfortable with and let go of people I don't like immediately
If I don't leave early, it's a hassle to get involved with my friends and acquaintances

If I buy stocks, it's at my own risk.

• 人災
• 2024/01/18 (Thu) 14:57
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Yes, that's right. It would be better if they did not start dating in the first place. It is true that such people do come close.

I try to focus on people I feel comfortable with and let go of people I don't like immediately
If I don't get away from them early, it will be troublesome after they get involved with my acquaintances and friends
You're right. You can bring a friend without a car from the beginning and they say it's close,

stock self-responsibility. But I trust people right away. Whether it's an acquaintance or a brokerage firm.
You're not sure of yourself, but I'll be careful.
I will cut ties with people like #111 as fast as I can. I will not even enter into a light relationship here.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2024/01/18 (Thu) 15:46
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"Like-minded and like-minded people naturally come together and make friends."

"Those with similarities in common are more likely to become close friends." "Those with similarities in common are more likely to become close friends.

• 都合がいい思考
• 2024/01/28 (Sun) 10:24
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People leave not only because they believe in you or not
there are many reasons

I have been finding it troublesome to hang out with people lately
it's not that I have any bad reasons
I honestly feel that I have no reason to hang out with them
I have left people I have been hanging out with due to inertia
I only spend time with people I enjoy

I don't enjoy casual conversations with people I enjoy
I think it's time to reset

I think it's time to reset.

I was able to spend my holidays slowly
I started to think about starting something new
I started to learn a lot
I got to know people who share the same values

I only share things I can share

At my age, no one fits everything
We only share the parts that fit each other

I feel very comfortable

So I have only a few friends that I can call friends
but I like them this much I've come to realize that I like it this way.